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The Bridezilla Effect, Part 1
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Avoid Becoming the World’s Scariest Bride
 
Wedding stress can wear on even the most balanced and reasonable brides. Read on for examples of bad bride behavior and advice on keeping your cool.

Caution: bride at work.
The Bridezilla Way: You’ve asked Cathy in accounting six times for wedding menu advice and Matt the office manager knows all about your latest fight with the caterer. You spend most of your day looking up items on your registry and rewriting your customized wedding vows. Your boss calls while you’re on the phone with the baker? You put her on hold and finish discussing the icing.

The Right Way: While planning a wedding and working full-time is no easy task, you need to remember that your company isn’t paying you to select china patterns. It’s fine to talk about the wedding with work friends, but don’t forget that your real job should always be your priority at the office! Leave the major planning at home and go to dress fittings and other wedding-related meetings on your lunch breaks. If you’re seriously stressed out, consider taking a few days off in order to try to catch up.

Hungry for marriage.
The Bridezilla Way: You’ve just found a beautiful strapless gown on sale in a size six. The only problem? You’re a size twelve and you’ve always hated your flabby upper arms. So you go on a radical diet, cancel romantic dinners with your fiancé, and spend hours exercising your arms at the gym. Forget about exactly tasting anything at a tasting – you get the baker to describe the flavors of the cakes to you instead.

The Right Way: It’s normal to want to look good on your wedding day. But you should purchase a gown that fits you the way you are now – not one in the size you hope to be six months from now. Instead of fasting or starving yourself, try to eat a healthy, balanced diet that allows for an occasional indulgence and work in moderate amounts of exercise. Seek help from a doctor or therapist if you find yourself unable to stop thinking about your weight.

Playing dress up.
The Bridezilla Way:  Your maid of honor has expressed interest in a green or blue dress, but you’ve already picked out a yellow dress with puffy sleeves that perfectly matches your daffodil bouquet. Sure, it’s a little more than your bridesmaids told you they could afford, and, yes, it probably won’t flatter your sister’s curvy frame, but your wedding day should be all about you. Besides, they can probably wear the dresses again someday!

The Right Way: Your bridesmaids have agreed to be part of the wedding as a reflection of their friendship and love. You don’t want to pay them back by making them wear ugly dresses that they will have to pay for by themselves. Your bridesmaids will look much better if they can feel comfortable and relaxed. Choose affordable dresses that flatter all your ‘maids, or give them a color scheme and allow them to select their own gowns.

Party of one.
The Bridezilla Way: You want to invite your best friend from college, but you hate her boyfriend. He has been rude to you in the past, and you don’t want to have him at the wedding. So you send your friend an invitation, sans guest!

The Right Way: In this case, the bridezilla might have the correct idea! You shouldn’t have to invite any guests who might make you feel uncomfortable. Instead of simply sending a single invitation, though, you could try to share your concerns about the boyfriend with your friend. She may not understand, but at least you will have the satisfaction of knowing you were honest.
 
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