Too Often You’re Too Busy to Spend Time Together

It’s your big day, and you get to share it with the one you love. Or at least you think you do. On the day of your wedding, things can get so hectic you often barely see the man you love and are about to spend the rest of your life with.

There are several reasons why brides seldom see the groom on the wedding day, and we’ve offered a few ways around it. For starters, more often than not a wedding is considered “your day,” which means people are going to be clamoring around you to see the dress and offer congratulations. Also, getting ready means makeup, hair, dress, and a lot of other distractions. If you’ve decided you don’t want to see the groom before the ceremony, it’s not a problem. However, should you like to share that before-time with your fiancé, you need to make some quick fixes.

“I often tell brides to get ready with their groom,” says Daniele Bobish of Curtain Up Events in New York City. “If you are not superstitious, spend that time together, whether at home or in your hotel. Remember, this is your last few hours before it’s legal, and you want to savor the moment.”  It also frees you to take pre-ceremony wedding pictures, which in turn can provide more time to enjoy your reception***.

Once the reception starts, you’re going to be more of a star attraction than the guy in the tux. “Everyone wants a piece of you,” says Bobish. “Also, brides tend to be more involved with the wedding, making sure they see everyone and that things run smoothly.” So if the groom is off with the guys having a cigar, pull him over and work the room, together. Make it a rule beforehand that you’ll walk around the room hand in hand.

Another key in keeping the two of you together is to appoint a point person who makes it happen. “Ask a close friend or someone in the party to make sure you don’t get separated for too long,” says Bobish. “No one’s going to be offended if someone walks up and says the bride is needed elsewhere.”

Finally, skip all or part of the cocktail hour to savor the moment. “Take the whole hour off or a few minutes,” says Bobish. “Find a quiet place, grab some champagne, and take it all in. This is your time and your day. Enjoy it together.”

-David Toussaint

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