What You Need to Know About the Big Moment

A kiss is not just a kiss when it’s on your wedding day. After the “I Do’s” comes one of the most memorable sections of your ceremony: the big kiss. You and your friends will be talking about it—and viewing it—for years to come. So you don’t end up making a lip-locked spectacle of yourselves, read on for pointers.

Since your first kiss as man and wife is clearly a passionate moment, don’t worry about making it too loving. You’re not giving a friend a peck on the cheek, and you’re not greeting your hubby after a long day at work. On the other hand, remember your audience. Chances are most of the guest list didn’t come to witness an R-rated movie scene. Like the old saying goes, K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple, Stupid), and then move on.

Surprisingly, the kiss is one area that couples don’t normally rehearse, and it’s also an area that makes them nervous. Know ahead of time how you are going to approach it. If you are wearing a veil, he needs to lift it over your shoulders (remind him during the rehearsal).

While you certainly don’t need a “how do I kiss my husband” prep course, make sure you’re both prepared. Figure out ahead of time where your hands are going to be, and talk about how long the kiss should last. Decisions like “do we close our eyes” and “should I lean left or right” are probably best left to improvisation. Instead, discuss what would make you uncomfortable in front of a crowd. In many ways, the kiss is like the cake-cutting; it’s a symbolic gesture of your love, not a gross-out fest for the crowd.

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