Ringbearer Outfits, Duties and Gifts
A Simple Primer
Most couples have at least two children in their wedding: the ring bearer and flower girl. Depending on the ages of these special attendants, being a wedding ringbearer can be a bit overwhelming for both the child and their parents. What is required of the ringbearer during the ceremony? What should he wear? This simple primer covers everything from ring bearer outfits to gifts from the couple.
What Does a Wedding Ringbearer Do?
Traditionally, the ringbearer is responsible for bringing the wedding bands down the aisle and presenting them to the best man and maid of honor. However, when planning a wedding ceremony you may want to decide if you feel comfortable entrusting a small child with expensive jewelry - even for a short while. Many couples have opted to include a ringbearer as a symbolic gesture but rely on the adult attendants to hold and present the wedding bands.
The ring bearer traditionally walks down the aisle with the flower girl just before the bride makes her grand entrance. Some couples may also choose to have the maid or matron of honor walk down the aisle after the ringbearer and flower girl and before the bride. Once the children reach the end of the aisle, you can have them stand next to the other attendants or sit with a family member in the front row. Remember when planning a wedding ceremony that includes children that kids will be kids, even if there is a wedding going on. Having your flower girl and ringbearer relax in the front row during the ceremony may be easiest for everyone.
A wedding ringbearer is usually included in bridal party photos taken before or after the ceremony. However, if you plan to do an off-site shoot, remember that a young child will easily get bored. Have a parent around to help entertain and care for the child during long photoshoots, or take the photos with children quickly and let them leave.
What Does a Wedding Ringbearer Wear?
Traditionally, the ring bearer outfits are miniature versions of groomsmen outfits. However, remember when you ask the ringbearer to be part of your wedding that it is typically his parent's responsibility to foot the bill for his wedding attire. You might consider allowing the ringbearer to wear a suit he already has or asking people you know if they have a pint sized tux that can be borrowed. In the end, the important thing is to make your expectations clear when you talk to the parents about including the child in your wedding party.
In addition to ring bearer outfits, these young attendants will also need a ring bearer pillow to carry down the aisle with them. Providing this accessory is the bride's responsibility.
Gifts for the Wedding Ringbearer
Just as you give gifts to all of your adult attendants as a thank-you for their involvement in your wedding, it is also customary for the couple to give a gift to the ringbearer. However, engraved flasks or sterling cuff-links will probably not be well received. Instead of sentimental gifts, consider age appropriate items like a gift certificate to the local toy store or a book recommended by his parents. A framed photo of the child with the couple can also be given to commemorate the event and ensure your ringbearer feels special.
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