He’s got the tux, planned the honeymoon, and memorized his vows. The only thing left for your fiancé to do is…take your name? Yes, sometimes men take on their wives’ name. Should this apply to you, familiarize yourselves with the necessary steps. And know the pros and cons.

Most men who take on their wives’ names do it for the simple reason that her surname is more suitable, especially if they are planning on having children. It is also a wonderful way for him to honor the new women in his life. While many women don’t care for their last name, men often feel the same way.  Similar to the wife taking on her husband’s surname, men often use their “maiden” names at the office and other places of business.

Should your fiancé take on your name, and make it legal, he needs to follow the same procedures that a woman does. The marriage license does not make the name-change legal, but it’s a much-needed document for proof.

The groom will need to get a new Social Security Card, and check with the State Supreme Court about specific state requirements. In some cases, it might be possible to do the paperwork online.

Once the groom has changed his name, he needs to contact all banks, credit cards, employers, etc. For insurance companies, a trip to the office is often required. Don’t forget the little things, either, like magazines, and remember to get a new passport.

As for the “unusual-ness” of this name change, weddings have entered a new time.  If your groom changes his name to yours, friends and loved ones and pretty much everyone else will see it as nothing more than a wonderful way to start your new life together.

-David Toussaint

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