The week before you wedding is like three minutes before curtain goes up at a Broadway show; you’ll have jitters, emergencies, and tons of stress. You’ll also be having the time of your life. Here’s an idea of what to expect, what to do, and how to make it seven days you’ll never forget.

Most important, says wedding planner Danielle Bobish, do not take anything for granted. “People think there’s going to be extra time,” she says, “but keep in mind all the things that are taking place, starting with guests coming into town.”

During that week, welcome bags need to be dropped off at hotels, all cards (programs, place cards, seating charts) need to be printed and handed to the appropriate persons. The week before is also when you check with your vendors to make sure they’re confirmed, and that their schedules are coordinated. “Never assume anyone has the correct information,” says Bobish. “That includes the clergyperson.”

The week of your wedding is also when tuxes will arrive, and perhaps the bridesmaids’ dresses and even your own dress, depending on when you schedule the last fitting. “Unless you have a planner, all these duties have to be assigned to people in your family or wedding party,” says Bobish.

Some of the things that often get overlooked, according to Bobish, are the marriage license (“don’t forget to bring it with you”), and personal toasting flutes or cake-cutting servers. “If you haven’t scuffed your shoes yet, break them in,” says Bobish. “On the day of your wedding, put a little hairspray on the bottom so you don’t trip.”

Make sure that, if there are major changes in your wedding, you send a mass email to guests. You should also post updates on your wedding website. You and your groom should confirm travel plans, and write out a timeline of what needs to be done and when.

“Have a list for everyone in the party,” says Bobish. “They need to know when the rehearsal is, the rehearsal dinner, who’s giving toasts, everything.” Bobish says this is especially important if children are in the wedding, as they need extra time to rehearse.

Finally, relax and releve stress.  “Schedule time for yourself,” says Bobish. “If you can book a massage for the day before your wedding, you’ll be one step ahead of the game.”

-David Toussaint

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