Tips for Writing a Great Speech

The best wedding speeches are short, genuine, and often make everyone laugh—including the bride and groom. Here are a few things to consider when writing wedding toasts.

Father of the Bride Speech

• Thank the guests.
  Also, acknowledge them for all of their support and friendship over the years. You might even thank them for the involvement in the lives of the bride and groom. Remember that you are toasting the guests for their support as well as toasting the couple.
  
  
• Share a Childhood Memory.
  The best Father of the Bride wedding toasts usually depict one good memory of the bride's childhood or teen years. Remember, this is not the time to ramble on about the millions of memories you have, as the audience will get bored. Rather, choose a memory that says something about your daughter and your relationship with her. For example, if she is an athlete, tell a story about how competitive she was when she was a little girl in soccer. Or if she loves to travel, tell a story about the family vacation to Rome that you took when she was twelve. Then, relate that story to the future marriage. For example, encourage the groom to remember his bride's love of getting on an airplane—or to watch out anytime the couple competes in sports! Note: this can also present an opportunity to make people laugh.
  
  
• Keep it Short and Genuine.
  The best wedding toasts are usually short and to the point. The speech may be sentimental, but don't overdo it. A little reflection is nice, but remember to wrap it up so that you can get the party started.

Best Man Speech

• Make Them Laugh.
  You do not have to be a gifted comedian to generate some laughs; simply sharing a funny memory or story is sufficient! Just make sure that you do not include anything that would embarrass or offend anyone (if you are not sure, then run it by someone you trust to have good judgement).
  
  
• Be Positive and Supportive.
  You might even mention that your friend or brother is marrying a great girl. Or, let the girl know that she got a loyal guy. Be genuine about what you say, but try to acknowledge positive aspects of either party.

Maid of Honor Speech

• Thank the guests and encourage them to have fun.
  The more energetic the speech, the more the energy will transfer to the guests, and the better the reception will be.
  
  
• Tell a Story.
  Story-telling is one of the best ways to begin a speech, and also to break the ice. If you are a sister or dear friend of the bride, you no doubt have a wealth of material to draw from!
  
  
• Be Supportive and Enthusiastic.
  This is a time to celebrate and share in your friend's joy. Emphasize how happy you are for the couple and that you are excited for their future together. (If you are not very happy with your friend's choice of spouse, it is important to address this before the wedding day, not the day of!)

Read more:

• Wedding Toast Etiquette
  
• When to Toast and When to "Roast!"
  
• Your Complete Wedding Party: Who Does What?