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Wedding Planning for Grooms

5 Vendors to Leave to Your Fiancé

Weddings are often geared more toward the bride than the groom. She wears the dress, gets the ring, and dazzles the crowd when she walks down the aisle. As such, the bride tends to be more involved with planning than the man she’s marrying. It doesn’t have to be that way: Many guys either don’t know how to help, or fear they’ll be in the way. Here, 5 manly tips on getting the groom involved.

  • Listen up. Before you scream at your fiancé for not caring about china patterns, make sure you haven’t alienated him. Between your mom, your friends, and your own enthusiasm, your groom might think he’s only needed on the wedding day. Sit down with him at the beginning of planning, and find out how involved he’d like to be. Make sure he knows you want his advice, and aren’t simply pretending to take an interested in his ideas.

  • He’s with the band.  Putting your groom in charge of finding the band and/or DJ is a smart move, as guys tend to know a lot about music and stereo equipment. Together, discuss the theme and appropriate music, and then let him do the searching. He can visit clubs, watch DVDs, and interview DJ’s. This is a great way to make beautiful music together.
     
  • Site rules. Even if you’ve picked out your reception site together, let him do the deal-making and negotiating with vendors. Choosing your site involves figuring out the most affordable option—night of the week, time of day—and possibly investigating several possible locations. Once he’s found the place, he can go over the “Plan B” rain set-up, figure out parking, and confirm logistics such as where dance floor goes, where outlets are, and make sure the caterers have enough space to work.

  • Register joy. Your groom’s the perfect person to set up the registry, especially if you’re looking at a couple of spots. While the high-end store might be up your alley, let him take care of the electronics store or the practical-items market. He can also call about donations, should you want to set up a charity for your registry. (Scared he'll forget something?  Forward him this checklist!)

  • Let him eat cake. Most guys like to eat, so have him start searching for your baker. Go over ideas together, as well as practical considerations like allergies and price range, and have him bask in the flavors of the moment at the tastings. Chances are he’ll start drooling over chocolate and red velvet, and he can also order a groom’s cake, now popular in any flavor and design, and often served with the main cake. Keep all of these ideas in mind for your groom, and the two of you will be off to a sweet start.


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9/22/2010 5:51:30 PM

I loved it

I loved this article. I don't understand why some of you ladies are so insecure that you are accusing this article of being sexist. Its simply saying 'hey, this is some easy stuff he can do to help instead of just watching every one else buss around.' I loved it, it helps to be aware of some more 'masculine' jobs that need to be done, that the groom would be more comfortable handling. Good job on a helpful and informative article Ourweddingday.com.
9/14/2010 9:10:46 PM

Calm Down

I think you all are over reacting too. It is just telling of ways to get your guy involved in planing your wedding. But hey if you want to do it all yourself, then you have no right to complain about it later.
9/11/2010 7:23:56 PM

Calm Down

I think you all are over reacting too. The article doesn't say that men know more about electronics then woman it just says they "tend to know a lot about music and stereo equipment" geeze girls calm down! This article is just giving ideas of what a grooms can help with. Traditionally men don't help with a lot of the planning. My fiancee is more hands on but I think this is great for others who may not be. There is nothing sexist about this article why don't you read it right!
9/7/2010 2:42:50 PM

I don't see the problem

I think you guys are really over-reacting. The article is not 'setting anyone back 50 years'; it does not state or even imply that women are incapable or less capable of selecting music or anything else. It is about helping some guys who may view wedding planning (incorrectly) as a "girly" activity, by highlighting some traditionally "manly" aspects of it. It's about making it easier for some guys, who don't know where to begin, to get involved.
9/3/2010 12:28:06 PM

I agree with the bride below, this article was VERY offensive to me. Thanks for setting us back 50 years OurWeddingDay.com instead of empowering us. Didn't know my fiancé was supposed to know more about stereo equipment than me (?)
 
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